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Perspective

31.December.04

More laundry? Man, I spend my entire life doing laundry and dishes for this family. Grrrr…I have so much to do.
    “…The Red Cross estimates that although the number of dead is now over eighty thousand, the number will be well over a hundred thousand as more victims are found washed up on the shores or under the rubble…”
I hate this bed of ours. I wake up every morning with a backache. I just hate it.
    “…Thousands have lost every material possession they owned when the tsunami struck and are sleeping in the streets or in shelters…”
Man, someone dinged my car in the parking lot? I can’t believe people don’t care about things like that, they just open their doors and WHAM! Uncaring jerks.
    “…My neighbors lost their entire house when the wave hit, but my house is still there. They came over to help us go through the rubble and to keep it from being looted…”
The birthday party for ten six year olds was brutal! You should have seen those kids! Ice cream and cake everywhere!
    “…It is estimated that the majority of the dead are children, who were most vulnerable to this disaster as they could not run as fast as the adults or were ripped from their parent’s arms as the wall of water struck..”
Clean your room! What is with teenage boys that they can’t pick up their clothes and their rooms just stink to high heaven. Open a window for crying out loud.
    “…the stench from the decaying bodies is overwhelming. Everywhere you look, there are bodies lining the roads and in makeshift morgues..”
Did you see that jerk cut me off? Geez, learn to drive you moron! I hate driving in all this traffic with idiots that don’t know how to use a turn signal.
    “…cars and buses were picked up by the force of the water and you can see some cars in trees, others are buried in mud. The roads are completely impassable…”
Mom, I hate meatloaf! I’m not eating this!
    “..Relief agencies are pleading for donations of money so that food and water can be brought into the hardest hit areas..”
Why do we have to go over to your brother’s house for dinner? You know I hate family gatherings.
    “…Generations of families are gone in this terrible natural disaster. Some people have lost their entire family and they alone are left.”
Dang this cold. I feel like crap. My nose won’t stop running.
    “…Dengue fever, dysentery and cholera will more than likely kill thousands of people who have survived the tsunami, and most of them will be children and the elderly..”
I hate my job.
    “Thousands upon thousands have lost their livelihoods as hotels, restaurants and other businesses were completely demolished..”
It takes forever for this water to get hot in the kitchen; I hate waiting for it to come out.
    “There is no drinkable water anywhere in the region. It’s all been contaminated by debris and sewage.”

I complained I had no shoes till I saw a man that had no feet. - Author Unknown

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Pamela, Your juxtapositions are powerful in this piece. It's absolutely profound. And I'm so glad you wrote it. It is painful to read about so much suffering, but important because it forces us to look at our lives--as you have--and put things in perspective. And your complaints from your day-to-day life were oh-so familiar. I remembered... seeing news footage in which a parent carried the dead body of his child. He wasn't grieving yet. He looked stunned. Watching another parent rock and rock as he held his dead toddler. I wept and wept, hiding my tears from Sarah while I made dinner. I explained to Sarah a week later that many people lost their lives in this terrible flood and that it made me so glad we are ok. And I told her we can pray for these people and ask God to take care of them. She got very thoughtful and quiet. Then flung her arms around me. Today we took Sarah to Starbucks so she could donate half the contents of her piggy bank to CARE for the tsunami victims. She couldn't quite bring herself to give it all, and kept aside her own pile of change. I looked at the $10 in my wallet--what's left of my "allowance" for coffees etc, and also felt stingy about sharing it, and then ashamed. Writing this I've decided to donate some portion of this month's piano teaching income to help. It is way, way too little. This week I will order pizza for our Thursday night dinner, buy at least one more latte from Starbucks, hang out in another cafe (at $1.50 for coffee) while I work on some writing committments, go to McDonalds on Wed on the way to kids choir, pay for gymnastics lessons, pay for a parent's night out event, buy an eyeliner to replace the one that's used up. I will thank God over and over for my blessings, wonder why I can live in such plenty when others are so destitute. I will re-evaluate what is important, pray for the victims of this disaster, the victims of the war in Iraq. And feel guilty. You are so, so, so right Pamela. This has put everything in perspective. Bless you, Lisa
Lisa
TX USA -
You are a very unique individual, Pamela, Pamela. It's a pleasure to share the same space with you.
Larrikin
Australia -
Wow, yet another winner. You put into words many of my thoughts from the past week.
Allison
UT USA -
Pamela, Your column this month does not give us things to laugh about but very much to think about. Your words echo my thoughts of the past week. How insignificant are our worries, aches and pains. I can't begin to imagine numbers that are now well over 140,00 dead. I worry so much more about the living. How many more will die before aid can get to them? What about mental health? How can people go on when everything they have in the world is gone? - family, homes, food, clothing, jobs, etc. I was always taught that people wouldn't be given more pain than they can bear. How can that be true? Judy
Judy Watkins
TX USA -
It's hard to put it all in perspective. I have to keep the tv turned off. However, I am trying to have hope that '05 will bring good things for the people I love, and good things for the world. Happy New Year, my dear friend. bri
Brian
CT USA -
Pam, that was wonderful. It makes ya think.
MeL
Kilgore, TX USA -
Ah, Pamela, you have struck a chord in me! Perspective, indeed. Locally, the editor of our paper has suggested that the Washington administration declare a "Time Out" from the war and send our troops to Indonesia to help out in a REAL crisis, not a manufactured one.[Let the Iraqis figure out their own government.] Sounds like a winner to me. Politics aside, we certainly need to count our blessings at this beginning of a new year. We have so very MUCH in this country--even the least of us. Thanks for your reminder! Lou
Lou Lyman
TX USA -
Dear Pamela This definitely was not one of your funnier columns... BUT OH MY ! HOW VERY POWERFUL... This sort of reminded me of some of the head and heart work that I recall doing while stuggling with personal issues (Caleb's custody, melanoma surgery and treatment, etc) and also the haunting images that still run through my mind about 9-11 and the images of war in Iraq... like the bombs going off in those first hours of the war while the Muslim call to prayer could be heard in the forefront.... and more recently and in a weather related vein the local devastation from Hurricanes 2004...... We are so blessed here in this country even when our own personal times are tough.... and you are so right, sometimes a little perspective is a good thing -- a very good thing. I think that through the personal awareness of such, we are able to pass along a bit of that to those we come in contact with ( our kids, our spouses, co-workers, readers, etc) Thanks for giving us reason to pause and remember the victims of such a devastating natural disaster.... to search our hearts for what is important and to cast aside the seemingly petty things that we tend to get all beserk over on a 'normal day' By the way, I hear on the news that Santa must have delivered your main wish ... you have a Gov. ?? !! Is it REALLY going to stick this time? Hugs and blessings Lee
Lee Ambrose
FL USA -
Really powerful, kiddo! I have been trying to figure out something good about that mess. the only thing I could figure is that I wasn't there.
the agentster
hicktown, NC USA -
Thank you for sending that.....After me, now you have Nancy crying.... That article has you written all over it..... Fred
Fred Miller
TX USA -
That's pretty powerful, Pam. It's hard to complain about anything when you think about all the hardship in that part of the world...
Jeri Lynn
Shoreline, WA USA -

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